I’m gonna brag on my wife, Jessika, a little bit here on Mother’s Day, because she deserves it. And even though I tell her these things from time to time, I think she needs to hear it more. She impresses me every single day, and frankly she makes me feel maybe a little shitty because there’s no way I could match what she does. I know parenting isn’t a competition, but maybe sometimes it is, and she’s winning.
Not only is she a great mom to our kids, and they love and adore her, but she’s working double to make sure our family is more secure in the future. It angers me sometimes that companies require a degree to get a job, get a promotion, etc. I mean I get it, certain jobs need that. But she is beyond skilled in so many areas, it’s crazy. I bring this up because while working full-time, she’s also taking classes so she can finish her degree. With an awesome GPA too. She’s on track to graduate this December, and I couldn’t be more proud. What she’s doing for this family is incredible, and I just hope I can make it up to her at some point.
I know other people work and go to school, I understand she’s not the first to do it, but if you’ve ever done it, you know what type of sacrifices you have to make, and what type of dedication it requires. She’ll study on her lunch break; at one job, I’d go lay in my car on my lunch break to take a quick nap.
There are many things that make her amazing. Her ability to essentially learn to do just about anything always impresses me. I’ve never been someone who could fix a damn thing; either I never had it or just never had the desire. But when our kids are older, she’ll be able to teach them how to install a bathroom sink, use a drill press, paint a huge cow (we have one in our kitchen), refinish a piece of furniture, bake a cake, competently use Excel (not me), make a cute children’s headband, and so on and so on. I could go on all day. I can basically kill the bugs (and if you ask my mom, she’ll be very surprised to hear this, given my past experience) and can teach them how to mow the lawn. So, shitty exterminator or landscaper would be my children’s best outcome if it were up to me.
And she does all of this without complaining. And I don’t mean about little things we ALL complain about when it comes to work, class, etc. That shit is normal and healthy. She has chosen to create a better situation for herself, which in turn will be better for all of us. And not once have I heard her say she wanted to quit or give up. She outworks everybody, and makes the rest of us look like losers by comparison in the process. And on top of this, she always finds time to help other people. She’s helped people get jobs at the companies she’s worked, She helps people in the jobs they have so they can success. Honestly, how many people do you know, right now, that would genuinely help you in your job while getting nothing in return?
I’ve never liked the phrase “I don’t know how he/she does it.” Because I know how she does it. She gets the job done with hard work, and for what she can’t do, she learns how to do it and then gets it done. Because she cares. Because she’s a good person. And because she’s a great mom. Our kids are too young to understand now, but one day it’ll hit them that they have the best mom.
I love you Jessika. Happy Mother’s Day.